While scribbling about zizi and gender neutral family titles last week, I also scribbled the following.
By asking others to honor my identities, I’m in a way asking them to come out to others by putting themselves in the types of uncomfortable conversations that result from one saying a person is neither a woman or man. It shakes some people’s realities—the teller’s, and the tellee’s. Although I don’t mean to, I’m asking others to help me feel more comfortable by using language that may discomfort others.
I don’t mean to cause discomfort. I just want to exist as I am, and have these basic truths be respected.